Warning Signs that a Widow is Stuck in Her Grief
- If she is withdrawing – pay attention. She may insist on alone time, but too much isn’t always the most healthy option for her.
- After a length of time she may become stuck in a grief cycle – encourage her to seek help from a professional.
- If her distraction with grief seems to keep her from engaging in life – (lack of attention to her home, children, or social activities that she used to participate in) offer a lending hand and encourage her to seek help.
- Children and/or pets show signs of neglect.
- Suicidal talk or talking about hurting others.
- Household chores, dishes, and laundry begin to stack up.
- Personal hygiene is no longer a priority.
- Declining or canceling social engagements.
- Excessive TV watching or computer time.
- Nervousness displayed through biting fingernails, hair pulling, teeth grinding, perfectionism, can’t slow down.
- Wandering while driving or walking.
- Increased use of “dark widow humor.”
- High risk behaviors: excessive drinking, erratic driving, not wearing her seatbelt, spending lots of money frivolously.
- Lying, covering up or hiding risky behaviors.
- Refusing grief help or counseling.
- Too much weight gain or loss.
- Increased concern for safety.
- Relating through her public mask and keeping her walls up.
- Trying to do everything perfectly, including the healing process.
- Helping others before she has gone through the process herself.
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