Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ~ C.S. Lewis
It is important for you to take time for yourself as you process your grief. It may take many months to feel and understand the feelings that go along with loss. Take time alone and time with others whom you trust and who will listen when you need to talk.
You may need hot baths, afternoon naps, trips, or a “cause” to work for to help others. Grief is an exhausting process physically and emotionally. Do not underestimate the healing effects of small pleasures as you are ready. Sunsets, a walk, a favorite food – all are small steps toward regaining your pleasure in life itself. At first, don’t be surprised if your enjoyment of these things isn’t the same. This is normal. For a while, it will seem that much of life is without meaning. At times like these make plans for something you look forward to – a game of tennis next week, a movie, lunch with a friend, or a trip next month – planning for the immediate future may help you get through today.
You may find hope and comfort from those who have experienced a similar loss. Knowing some things that helped them and realizing they have recovered, that time does help, may give you hope that sometime in the future your grief will be less raw and painful.
Follow what feels healing and what keeps you connected to the people and things you love.